Condolences
Born in the
dark only to die in the dark,
a certain
amount of darkness is to beexpected in or in between our lifetimes.
I received
an email late last night,
often a
harbinger of acceptance orrejection, only to learn she’d died.
It used to
be that telegrams would
suffice for such, letting one weep foror rejoice a life in peace and quietude.
Then the ubiquitous telephone
brought such
news without theluxury of considering a response.
Modern technology has given
back what
had been taken away,but has removed any spontaneity.
So when I received her sister’s
message and reread the meaning, Irealized I had to carefully respond.
What
condolences should be used
when the
fragility of emailed wordsconvey so little of oft-studied memories?
Recollections of dual loves long ago,
flowered in
such youthful exuberance.yet wilted by thoughtless replacement.
Careful
words to her sister; but, for whom
am I sorry:
the girlfriend who died? - or thesister, the writer, replaced by her? – or me?
Rick Hartwell
is a retired middle school (remember, the hormonally-challenged?) English
teacher living in Moreno Valley, California. He believes in the succinct, that
the small becomes large; and, like the Transcendentalists and William Blake,
that the instant contains eternity. Given his “druthers,” if he’s not writing,
Rick would rather still be tailing plywood in a mill in Oregon.
This is so sad :(
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